6 years

This month marks six years since Harry’s diagnosis. I can still hear the paediatrician’s words echoing in my mind: “Harry has Autism. Do you understand what that means?”

Truthfully, I didn’t. I sat in a stark, white-walled room surrounded by posters outlining neurological conditions completely overwhelmed. I didn’t understand what it meant for Harry, for our future, or what I was supposed to do next. I remember driving home in tears, feeling lost. It was as if I didn’t know who my son was anymore. The world suddenly felt unfamiliar, and I had no idea how to process what I’d just been told.

That night, I sat reading through the paperwork from his assessment. I felt consumed by sadness and guilt. I replayed the harsh comments people had made before the diagnosis, accusations, unsolicited advice, and claims that I was “labelling” him too young or that he might just “grow out of it.” Even though we finally had clarity, I couldn’t help but question whether I’d made the right decision.

It took a few months to fully absorb the reality and find my strength. I had to let go of the self-doubt and distance myself from anyone who wasn’t on our side. That period was the beginning of a shift a turning point.

I realised that if I felt this alone, others must too. That’s what inspired me to start blogging and sharing our story. I wanted to raise awareness, offer support, and create a space where other parents and carers could feel seen. And, one day, I hoped Harry would feel empowered to share his own story to help others too, which he does ❤️

In these six years, we’ve overcome so much. I’ve reshaped my life around caring for Harry and his sister. Only recently have I begun to carve out a little time for myself again. But honestly, I wouldn’t change a thing.

I love being able to share practical ideas with you, tips for navigating challenging moments, emotional development, and strategies for learning. In a few weeks, I’ll be visiting a group I used to attend with Harry when he was 4/5 years old, a group for children with additional needs. I’ll be speaking with parents and carers, sharing how visual aids can be such powerful tools. It feels so special to return to that space, but I know it will stir up a lot of memories too.

To anyone out there at the beginning of their journey: you’re not alone. You’re stronger than you think. And one day, I promise, it won’t feel so overwhelming.